Sunday, October 19, 2014

Beloved Washington DC Trans Advocate Ruby Corado Marries Longtime Boyfriend; DC Mayor Vincent Gray Gives Her Away

Ruby Corado and her new husband David Walker pose with DC Mayor Vincent Gray
On Saturday, October 18th true love united as noted DC trans advocate Ruby Corado married her longtime boyfriend David Walker in a beautiful ceremony at the Mayflower Renaissance Hotel in DC. She was walked down the aisle by DC Mayor Vincent Gray, who has been a longtime supporter of the transsexual and transgender communities.

On Sunday she left a message on her Facebook wall:

 Dreams Do Come True!

 My whole life, I have been told that I was not supposed to love or be loved.

 I was not supposed to love myself because I was different( Trans, indigenous, dark haired, immigrant, HIV Positive, fat, short, you name it). I was made to believe that no one could love me back because I was different.

 Yesterday, life proved everyone wrong.

 I love myself more than ever because I am SOMEBODY. My husband showed the world that it is ok to love me even though I am different.

 My city's mayor Vince Gray walked me down the aisle and showed the world once again that he stands for love. My friends and Family showed me, that I am SOMEBODY, and they stand with me in sickness and in health until death do us part.

Today as I lay next to my husband, I want to tell my friends, clients, supporters, followers and the entire world that It is ok to be different and that no matter what anyone says, YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE AS MUCH AS I AM

Never stop dreaming; never stop believing because dreams do come true.

A Million Thanks To Everyone Who Shared This Special Moment in person or from a distance, I felt your love

Love For All, Ruby Corado-Walker


Thursday, October 2, 2014

Out Actress Emily Rios On Why LGBT Actors Should Play LGBT Characters: "It's important. We should advocate for that because...we’re always going to respect those characters because we lived the life personally"

with out actress Emily Rios

Last night I was particularly excited to attend the National Hispanic Foundation for the Arts Annual Gala because one of my favorite actresses, California native Emily Rios, was being honored. This summer she came out publically as lesbian

With the current controversy of Amazon’s new online TV show Transparent capitalizing off ‘transface’, where men humiliatingly play the roles of trans* woman characters, which further misgenders, others and dehumanizes our community, I thought I would interview Emily about the importance of LGBT actors having the opportunity to play LGBT characters, especially since her trailblazing character on FX’s ‘The Bridge’ is also a lesbian Latina.

Trans Forming Media:

“Why do you think it’s important for LGBT actors to play LGBT roles?”

Emily Rios:

“I think it’s important that we need to do it [openly LGBT actors playing LGBT characters on TV and in film] and the reason why we should advocate for that is because we come from a level of respect and we’re always going to respect those characters because we lived the life personally.

I would love that we won’t get typecast in that sense and only have to play those characters forever, but as far as us I feel like we shouldn’t stay closeted, you know, I feel we should come out and feel comfortable playing those roles because I feel those are the roles that are really going to set our careers forth because this is who we are and this is what we live in a daily basis.

 And really, when you come from a place with any character when you can relate on a personal level it showcases on TV and I feel the audience is always going to respect us more when we show respect to the character”

Rios’ acceptance speech:

Monday, September 22, 2014

#HappyBlackWoman: The New York Times Says, “Shonda Rimes and Ashley Love are ‘Angry’ Black Women Because They Pursue Social Change”

Last week The New York Times called media mogul Shonda Rimes an “angry black woman” and just three weeks ago The NY Times also called me “angry” and “aggressive”, simply because I, as a journalist and advocate, asked a question during a Q&A following Outfest's screening of Transparent (re: ‘trans face’ - where a male actor once again plays a trans* woman character).

 When Black women own their power, are assertive and question the patriarchy they are often called "angry black women", de-feminized (“aggressive”), demeaned and stigmatized (stigmatizing is a new clever form of censorship, as well as vilifying dissent).

Of course, both journalists that mischaracterized both Shonda and I are white women, and of a particular class. A couple of privileged white female journalists that apparently have no clue what Black women in the United States go through (and even more challenging, what Black and Latina trans* women go through) can attempt to vilify us simply for sharing real life experiences, asking tough questions and working to help other women of color, yet we will continue to advocate for change - because our work is not about crafting sensational articles so the NY Times can garner more hits and ad revenue, or writing disingenuous, one-sided PR fluff pieces for an Amazon online TV show, our work is to try to make the world a better place.

I'm happy, I'm free spirited, and I’m inspired, but if calling me an "angry black woman" makes you feel less uncomfortable with the truth I speak, then chances are you may be a "shallow, blind, fearful and classist non-Black woman".   - Jus’ sayin’…

 #UnapologeticBlackQueen #HappyBlackWoman

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Today NeNe Leakes Exposes Self-proclaimed "Anti-Bullying Ambassador" Wendy Williams for Actually Being an Anti-BlackFemaleSolidarity Advocate: “You…constantly speak negative…and lie. You…spew...hate! When it comes to gossip you are the lowest of the low!”

#SomeoneHadToSayIt - Today NeNe Leakes called out Queen Mean Girl Wendy Williams for using her platform to ridicule and bully other African American women, among other communities.

However, because Williams raises money for GLAAD (former anti-defamation group gone disingenuous PR company), they now call her an "anti-bullying ambassador" (more accurately an anti-BlackFemaleSolidarity advocate), despite Wendy bullying other women, people of color, LGBT folks, etc, as well as previously outing gay entertainers when she was in radio, and her many transphobic comments which include misgendering women of transsexual history and mislabeling their heterosexual boyfriends as "gay men".

Nene had enough of Wendy hating on other Black women and called out Wendy's hypocrisy, jealousy and bullying on her blog: 

 "Wendy I am sure people think that I’ve done something to you, maybe we had a beef or I slept with your man but none of that is true! … But what you have chosen to do is constantly speak negative of me and lie on me!...What you need to do is stop spewing hate! When it comes to gossip you are the lowest of the low! I know you hate...I have a clothing line on HSN coming out in a few days... it must be hard for a black woman to support another black woman but you should try it sometime." (full quote in following link)

 I hope GLAAD doesn't allow Williams and her publicist to bribe them to be their "anti-bullying ambassador" again this year:

Nene Leakes full quote:

Sunday, July 20, 2014

Michelle Demishevich Becomes Turkey’s First Transsexual TV Reporter! Next Stop: She’s Running For Public Office In 2015

Michelle Demishevich
Congrats to Michelle Demishevich for becoming Turkey's first transsexual female TV reporter!

 But times have not always been easy for Michelle. In 2012 she was a victim of male violence and transphobia, when during her walk home she was brutally attacked and assaulted.

Since her attack 50 trans women have been murdered in Turkey.

Last month justice prevailed for Michelle’s case when her assailant was jailed, marking a milestone victory for all transsexual people.

Although legislation doesn’t officially discriminate against transsexual people, the community asserts that violence, forced sexual exploitation, employment discrimination, burial discrimination and hate crime murders still plague their community.  

Yet times are evolving.
This summer the world witnessed Turkey make a gigantic splash when their LGBT Pride celebration was the largest to date in the Muslim world, inspiring much hope and a promise for change.

And Michelle is only getting started...

 While her TV reporting work and public advocacy continue to make positive strides towards helping her community, she recently announced that next year she will being running in the legislative elections!

Three cheers for Michelle Demishevich! We are behind you 100%!  

Monday, June 9, 2014

City of Angels Say Words DO Matter: L.A. Center Renames to "LGBT", CSW Pride's First Ever "TLGB" Pride, Angelinos Strike Back Against Anti-Trans Slurs

 Had a good time at TLGB Pride in L.A. yesterday. Nice to hear many talented artists perform, get some sun, eat delicious food, enjoy summer cocktails, visit information booths and most importantly see old friends. An interesting summer in Los Angeles: The "GL" Center renames to Los Angeles LGBT Center, Pride organizers put T in front of "TLGB" Pride and many Angelinos are speaking out against transphobia in gay male spaces, which happens frequently in L.A. (where the controversial RuPaul's Drag Race show is filmed and many noted transphobes reside).
It's good to see L.A. trying, and although names and words are very important, so are the ideas and messages we send out into the world, and the undeniable consequences of certain actions. So when you are at The Abbey in West Hollywood and the waiter accidentally spills a drink on you don't yell out to the distressed waiter, - "You freakin' tra**y, look what you did, selfish jerk". - Instead you should 1) realize it was an accident and 2) maybe just not hurl around anti-transsexual slurs at all for they are poisoning our society with anti-trans sentiment, marginalization and all forms of violence.
In the spirit of Pride it does feel great to have CSW L.A. Pride and the L.A. Center make these positive gestures, especially at a time when the rift between the LGB and the T* communities is wide.
Hopefully we understand that attacking someone else's pride by promoting the misgendering and dehumanization of women with birth challenges is not "cool", "hip", "edgy" or a gosh dang freakin' "term of endearment". Authentic "endearment" is sincerely listening to our feelings and actually looking at the facts, not blindly or consciously encouraging transphobia via defamation and misinformation campaigns.
What L.A. non-profits did this summer was take a stand and say words DO matter, and they showed us that by editing their names. This is a real Pride month in L.A. Let's all be inspired from Los Angeles and make changes that affirm and reflect all transsexual and transgender Americans. Hope you have a great rest of your Pride month!

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

MTV / Logo's Stand Against RuPaul's Transphobic Rhetoric Triggers Even More Verbal Abuse from the Embattled Impersonator

Thank you to MTV / LogoTV and Viacom for publically distancing themselves from disgruntled employee RuPaul after his recent emotional melt-down where he lashed out in response to Logo rightfully siding with the trans community by banning trans hate speech on their platform.

Logo affirmed that trans people's safety, equality and basic human dignity are more of a priority to their network than appeasing certain gay male entertainer's unhealthy insistence on using (and capitalizing off of) misogynistic and transphobic slurs in front of millions of impressionable viewers. Logo's pro-trans-humanity resolution is cause for celebration and even healing between the often conflicted LGB and T* camps, yet somehow this step forward triggered RuPaul for he immediately lashed out in spite.

In a May 19th podcast interview he literally referred to all trans women who find his transphobic jokes and double standards unacceptable as "b*tches" and continuously used anti-trans slurs.

Not an olive branch and not a 'meet in the middle' - just this immature 'sore losers' tantrum. Very disappointing. The mother and healer in me is feeling his pain, but, unfortunately, he appears to be consciously unaware of how misguided his "victim artist" role is (especially when he recently criticized actress Amanda Bynes on Twitter for using the slur f*ggot, even though she pulled a RuPaul and said, "But I didn't mean it in a bad way". He still didn't buy her defense of her slur usage - and guess what big man, we don't buy your identical defense either.).

How can he not see that just like he and many other gay men don't like non-gay men saying the word f*ggot or other homophobic slurs, trans women and men also do not appreciate gay men appropriating anti-trans slurs as a means to appear edgy, funny and shocking, no matter the cost to the actual community who the slur is hurled at.

Logo quickly made it known that they disapproved with RuPaul’s podcats rant. Then on Twitter the 'reality star gone hate-slur advocate' desperately continued his push back against Logo for holding him accountable for his defamation against transsexual women - who he laughingly described as male clowns in dresses last year during an episode of RuPaul's Drag Race and publically mocked their medically necessary healthcare.

Strangely enough, RuPaul has unknowingly joined the ranks of far right and ultra-phobic group Focus on the Family who also misgender and refer to transsexual women as "tr*nnys, she-males and cross dressers" in political campaigns and literature aimed at dehumanizing and disempowering trans* Americans.

Wake up Ru, MTV / Logo / Viacom does not need you for "light bills" as your delusional tweet says, much like ESPN or the NBA does not need racist Clippers owner Donald Sterling to pay their "light bills".

Reality Check: It's 2014, not 1985, and numerous companies and media outlets finally deem transphobia just as offensive as racism, sexism and homophobia.

So when you judge Duck Dynasty and others for their homophobic comments honestly ask yourself why you feel entitled to then make equally offensive comments about others.

Your well documented hypocrisy has made clear that this so-called debate is not really a debate at all for your very own campaign against anti-gay slurs is no different than our fight against you using anti-trans slurs.

Your illogical spin vanishes under the light.

And yes, Logo actually has "distanced itself" from your transphobic jokes and abusive rants by making multiple public statements expressing that enough is enough! Their network will not abandon doing the right thing by transsexual and transgender Americans just because a handful of gay male entertainers feel their celebrity status and fan base gives them special allowances to foster an unhealthy workplace environment or create media content where the women in my community are made targets of propaganda that misgenders and dehumanizes us.

The choice could be yours to maturely move forward as a man who has consciously unconditioned himself of feeling entitled to dictate to women what is or isn't acceptable for us to be offended by and to instead evolve as an authentic ally who sincerely listens. We all make mistakes but the good news is we all have the chance to grow.
Grow up and gain some compassion.